I find that with a full time job and three small kids, it is easy to get so wrapped up in being a mommy and a career woman, that I forget to be a wife. Or even sometimes confuse being a mother with a wife. They are not the same thing. I am very fortunate to have a wonderful husband that supports me and the children and is very laid back and easy going. I am so fortunate that sometimes I forget that because he does not complain, that he does not have needs or desires that need met. I forget that maybe he misses his wife/partner/friend and needs a little bit of the "old days" back in his life. I am not talking strictly sexual here, I am talking about that Best Friend he used to have in me. The person who listened to him and cared for him. As I reflect back, I find that lately when he comes to me, I greet him with what bills need paid, what kids need punished, what the changes to the family calendar are, how I need help with chores, and sex?!? Forget about it. That is just one more thing on my "To do" list.
But that is not fair of me. I feel like I carry the world on my shoulders, but why is that? Have I asked him for help or for his input on how things can run more smoothely? Have I asked him what I can do for him to help him with being a full time daddy and full time career man (The hardest working man I know, might I add). And have I told him how proud I am of him for the wonderful man he has become and the amazing father he is? NO!! I let my goals, visions, anxiety, and fears take the front seat and left him hanging on to the tailpipe, just trying to catch a ride.
So I came across a campaign on how to be a better wife. I have missed some of the activities since I discovered it late, but I am going to pick up where I can now, and I encourage all of you to do the same. It is the least we can do for the men in our lives.
How to be a better wife:
June 28 – Ask your husband every morning how you can pray for him that day. Bonus: Fast and pray for him one day this week.
July 12 – Make a list of 5 things you currently do and ask him to prioritize them for you of what is important to him. For example – a clean home, home cooked dinner, coupon clipping, service at church, having friends over for dinner, watching/doing sports with him, etc.
July 19 – Make him a priority. Ask him what his favorite dinner, dessert and drink are. Be sure to serve him all three one night this week. Bonus: cook his favorite dishes all week long! (Chicken Casserole, Chinese food and burgers, here we come!!)
July 26 – Support his vision. Discuss his vision for your family. Where does he see your family in 1 year, 5 years, and 10 years.
August 2 – R-E-S-P-E-C-T! No complaining, criticizing, rolling your eyes, nagging, or giving him any friction this week. Enjoy a week of peace in your home! (No friction at home- yay! Except, maybe in between the sheets, if you know what I mean! Wink, wink!)
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