My First Blog As A Single Lady

Ladies and Gentlemen, may I have your attention?  I am now officially single.  A Ms. not a Mrs. 
And...I feel the same. I guess there is some relief that the divorce is over, and not looming over my head anymore.  Hopefully, soon, this divorced/Single parent thing will become second nature to me, and I won't obsess over my calendar to see when the children will be at their dad's and will there be any events they miss.  I know it will be difficult and always cause some problems, but I have 18 years to perfect it, and millions of others have been doing this for a long time, so I am sure that soon, I will rock the Weekend Visitation world.  And even though I miss the little ones when they are gone, I find comfort in knowing that I have them 87% of the year. 

The kids have seen their dad consistently since Thanksgiving, and have met his girlfriend, and so far that seems to be going well.  I am not going to lie and say it has been easy.  It has taken a lot of patience on my part, and a lot of tongue biting.  But the kids are doing great, seem happy, and most importantly, feel loved.  I want them to see that even though we are no longer a traditional family, that they are still loved and have TWO parents who love them and are united in giving them the best life possible, and committed to doing our best to make sure they grow up to be good people.  I hope that one day all of this is behind us, everyone can act like grown-ups (your age does not make you a grown-up, your behavior does) and be one big happy, twisted, odd family.  Even if just superficially.  Fake it until you make it right?

So many changes are going on in our lives.  We are moving, I am still hunting for that perfect work/life balance, LOVING being home with my kids, starting basketball with Dakota and Dillon, Dalton is starting speech therapy, and I am contemplating going back to school.  I have about two days to decide.  ?!@#?!#$?

Now I am ready to get a routine down.  I thrive on routine, but can be really bad about sticking to them.  I do much better when everything has a time/day/etc... I need to wake up, get dressed, get kids ready, clean, blog, work, budget, craft, play with kids, cook, baths, bed, drink wine, at the same time every day.  I am working on a HOME MANAGEMENT BINDER right now that will allow me to do just that.  I am hoping that moving will give me a clean slate, a renewed energy, and drive to be the person I want to be.  Not just the person I have become due to circumstance. 

The kids are doing great.  They all love being big brothers to Ryan and they are very protective of her.  Dalton is the best at making her laugh, but is still a little rough with her.  He is just very touchy with her and is always rubbing on her, patting her, kissing her, pulling on her, etc... He doesn't mean to hurt her, he just gets excited.  Dillon is still very nurturing to Ryan and such a big help.  He LOVES his sister.  Dakota is finally taking an interest in Ryan and sees her as someone to play with now, instead of a giant poop machine. 

I've said it before, but I have the greatest friends and family ever.  How many single moms of 4 kids do you know that can get a sitter pretty much anytime they choose?  I am so blessed.  Even being able to go to the grocery without the kids saves me time and sanity.  So, life is good.  I have also crossed a couple things off of my "Suck It List", but I will update on that later.  It's all about timing, and some people may not quite get where I  am coming from just yet. 

So in summary: Single, Happy, Stressed, Hopeful, Amazing Kids, Best Friends, Incredible Family, Lots of changes in my personal life, and God is good.  Peace Out.